“Can I hug your child?”
Recently, a video was smashed on the web.
Driving on the high-speed rail seat
a 30-year-old black man
Holding a five or six year old girl
Don't stop hand pick up girl's clothes kiss
The little girl twisted and kept saying that she was very resistant.
But the man still keeps on his behavior.
Openly continue to "squat" the little girl
In the video
The girl has been avoiding men
Shouting: "Dad hurts, Dad doesn't..."
But the man still doesn’t stop squatting.
Even the passengers around can't stand it anymore.
Sitting next to the man should be the mother and grandmother of the little girl.
Actually the whole trip indifferent just keep playing mobile phone
The person who broke the news also called
There are more unacceptable ones behind.
The man reached into the little girl's ass.
Just getting off the bus, not taking it.
This few minutes of video
I ca n't breathe when I see it.
When did such behavior be so open to such a degree?
But it makes me angry.
Is the result of the subsequent processing
The party Zhou and the little girl are indeed father-daughter relationships.
Therefore, Zhou’s behavior does not constitute an illegal act. ”
In public, stroking, kissing
Not belonging to you?
The little girl clearly refused to that extent.
Shout, don't want it.
It can be seen that the body is very uncomfortable.
Just because of the father and daughter relationship
Has it been rationalized to behave like this animal?
What father, what blood
What kind of excuse can these be called in such a thing?
Watching the mother and grandmother next to this father look indifferent
I believe that this has been more than once.
Staged in their family life
Has reached the level where they are used to it.
What makes people think more is very scary .
Perhaps also of countless thousands of Chinese families numbness staged
On a moving subway
a father holding his daughter
Squeaking her ass while talking to her
The woman facing her daughter should be a mother.
Mom is talking to her
And Dad started to habitually touch her daughter.
The daughter looks probably only about four or five years old.
Mom turned a blind eye to Dad’s behavior
Dad feels that his touch is harmless.
On the bus
A middle-aged man holding a girl in her arms
I keep going to kiss my face.
The girl has shown resistance
The man still continues to kiss her
This man is the father of the girl
He did this to make his daughter happy.
The child is obviously very uncomfortable.
Are you happy or happy?
In the hall of a hospital in Chongqing
The girl’s uncle openly put his hand into his pants.
If no one has to stop
The girl looks old enough.
Father, relatives, family
These people are the most loved ones of their children .
Can also become the most dangerous person in the invisible
I thought this kind of thing was hard enough to accept.
But some time ago, I rolled up a random variety on the Internet.
It’s just a complete refreshment of my three views.
In the program
The girl who just got into the second year of high school came to tell the guests about their troubles.
Dad is too "concerned" about her.
What is the concern about the law?
Intimate physical contact everywhere in daily life
At home, as long as the father’s eyes are opposite
Will be kissed
This pro is not a simple pro, but also sticks out her tongue to lick her face.
When I have a cold, my father will suck her nose with her mouth.
When sitting together watching a movie, my father will watch her with her.
I will also blow while touching her belly;
When the bowl is being brushed, the father will touch her ass behind her;
Even in the face of everyone
Also without hesitation
Father's friend came to the house to be a guest
He will deliberately call his daughter out and kiss in front of a friend.
Yes, you're not mistaken
This is the daily behavior of a father.
His daughter is a high school student! Not a child!
There are three children in the girl’s family.
The other two children are also suffering from the same situation.
And because the age is relatively small
Father even opens the door directly when they take a shower.
To wash them
Push the door to bathe, kiss in public, touch the butt
This father’s behavior has completely exceeded his boundaries.
But what’s even more amazing is
When the guests asked if the father felt
When is there something wrong with such a thing?
He naturally blurted out
I feel that "the daughter's body is my body."
It’s really taking the roll and sucking it down.
Where is this so deformed value?
You may have questions when you see this.
What about the mother of this family?
Same as a woman,
Doesn't mother see such a thing not stop it?
Still really no
Let's see if mom treats this thing.
How did it respond?
The left side of the family sitting in the audience is the father on the right is the mother.
"Like physical contact is an expression of love,
I don't think this is a very bad thing. ”
Don't think this is a very bad thing
Is this attitude familiar?
This is in the same events as above.
Members of the numb family are exactly the same
It’s all family
How close is it to contact?
Close to the child
Explain that I love her.
But the volume is going to ask you a sentence.
Have you considered your child's own feelings?
Can you see her discomfort?
The three daughters of this family have no exception
Have been hurt to varying degrees
And repeatedly told my father that I should not do this again.
But Dad not only does not converge, but also reprimands them for being ignorant.
The eldest daughter is even more grievous in the show:
"This kind of thing makes me very painful,
I am already afraid of going home now. ”
In the post bar
There are also many, many children who have spoken.
I am affected by this kind of thing:
Some girls say
I dare not embrace, even if I face the boy I like,
Also very afraid of physical contact with him;
Never trust anyone anymore;
I have never been able to step into the palace of marriage.
Such contact has become a nightmare for my whole life .
There is no courage to repeat such things,
I am also afraid that the child who has given birth to the child will face such a thing;
What's more, the relationship between the family and the relatives is directly cut off.
Old and dead do not come and go...
This kind of injury is really terrible...
What you think is "intimate"
In fact, it is destroying the child's physical boundaries!
How many parents are intimate with no boundaries
Confused with love
They are completely unaware
Children are independent individuals
The child’s body belongs only to themselves
These are in the name of "love"
Stroking, forcibly kissing, watching the child take a shower
Intimate contact that has far exceeded the bottom line
a more serious aspect
In terms of psychology
Has caused hidden sexual assault on children
Implicit sexual assault is a more subtle violation. Although it will not cause physical damage to the child, it will also cause psychological harm to the child like sexual assault. For example, sneak a child to take a bath, let the child go to a heterosexual bathroom, let the child urinate in public, take a nude picture of the child in a circle of friends, etc., such behavior is a kind of hidden sexual assault.
The most direct psychological harm caused by hidden sexual assault
It has two main types:
One is to destroy the child's physical boundaries
One is to destroy the normal development track of children's sexual psychology.
How to understand?
According to research
Such a child
Sexual self-esteem will be lower after growing up
Physical shame will also be low
Getting along with classmates and colleagues,
It will also cause a lot of trouble and embarrassment
Even affecting their friends with the opposite sex
a terrible fear of intimacy
When they face the real violation
Will be stunned and wrong
She won't think it hurts
She will take it for granted
But the pain of the body makes them hurt
Forced to be alone
It’s my own fault.
So we saw those children who were clearly violated.
The face is still a cold and ignorant look
They are already in such bottomless physical contact
Invisibly gave up his body
"My body is not important"
In the end, they themselves think that this is a kind of
Don't think there is anything wrong with this
How serious is the consequence of this indulgence?
It’s like tearing a small hole into the dark curtain
You can't stop it.
You can't cover it.
Finally, how to make up can no longer make up for it.
According to survey statistics
In the case of child sexual assault reported publicly in 2017
Family members (father, brother, stepfather, grandfather, etc.)
There were 32 crimes , accounting for 15.3% of the total.
In a data survey in Guangzhou
The father who is the first infringing child is actually the father , up to 21%
Behind every case is a close relationship
Behind every case, there is a painful and evil injury.
Knowing "What secrets do you have been deeply buried in your heart?"
Underneath this question
More than 10 high-vote answers have been mentioned
Childhood and even sexual assault
These relatives include brother, father, uncle, uncle, etc.
But they have become the secrets of the party’s life in the bottom of their hearts.
Are the victims silently
And the more terrible consequences are
When you are numb yourself, you can destroy the child’s body boundaries.
When you don’t think there’s a big problem
In fact, it is in disguise to give those real bad guys a chance.
A girl who has just been 16 months old has suffered sexual assault
The doctor said:
"The laceration of the posterior wall of the vagina and the perineal body of a child is very serious.
Need urgent debridement and suture! ”
This harmful animal is not someone else
It’s the stall of the family’s business in a vegetable market.
According to mom description
This person will often hold their daughter to play.
The last time I took it for 40 minutes.
Looking back, the baby has been dull
Change clothes for her
Hit the child's lower body
She is a little upset
Open a look
"The blood that is not wet has already penetrated inside..."
This scum is killing a lot of people.
Can this mom
I ask you
How can you bear it?
How can you
I gave my one-year-old daughter an unfamiliar person?
Her life may be so ruined.
a father in Beijing
Spend an annual salary of 160,000 yuan to the daughter to ask a teacher to tutor
This so-called famous teacher Zou Mou
The threatening behavior from the beginning of the tutoring
Finally, 4 sexual assaults were committed against girls.
More than once, my daughter asked her father to change her teacher.
But the father just feels that the child is tired of learning to rebel.
I didn’t feel right until I felt it.
Installed a camera at home
I really discovered this animal that is a teacher.
The camera photographed Zou Mou leaned over to kiss the girl
I can't imagine this father seeing that picture.
How is the heart trembled?
But his once innocent daughter
Can't come back again
Xinhuanet has also reported a terrible news.
A little boy was sexually abused by a teacher for half a year.
Sexually transmitted diseases
The teacher buys snacks every day.
Ask him to have a dead corner in the toilet, etc.
After the matter is exposed
The boy was found to have genital warts
The anus outside is an sarcoma
Too many of these examples
The roll has been unable to bear to write it down.
Do you think that such a thing is far away?
Once you let go
You don't know what you will be welcoming.
Never forget this data forever
More than 80% of child sexual assaults are acquaintances
And children who have suffered sexual assault
This shadow will accompany the life of TA
In the end, it will even kill people.
This phenomenon, in psychology, has a proper noun
Called PTSD trauma syndrome that post-traumatic stress disorder
After experiencing deep trauma, the individual is suppressed for various reasons and accumulated for a long time, but will not disappear. If it is triggered by certain events, it will cause self-injury, self-harm and other stress reactions.
Taiwanese female writer Lin Biaohan was sexually assaulted as a child
Suffering from depression after growing up
Although I met a lover, I got married.
But still can't get rid of this shadow
Finally, I wrote down my autobiographical novels with tears.
New book just released
I chose to commit suicide at home.
After the attack on Siqi in the novel
I want to discuss sex with my mother.
Mom said this:
Just at the dinner table, Siqi said to her mother with a creamy spread of bread: "Our tutor seems to have everything, there is no sex education."
Mom looked at her strangely and replied: "What sex education? Sex education is given Those who need sex, isn’t the so-called education?”
Siqi understood for a moment that in this story, parents will be absent forever. They are absent from class, but they think they have not started school.
Causing all of this
Not these bad guys
It’s just that many of us are used to it now.
"The child's body is my body";
It is the class we have been jealous of;
It’s that we haven’t erected our children since we were young.
Obvious physical boundaries;
It ’s the hand we used to put on the child...
You might say
This situation is not so serious in our family.
Will not be as good as "high-speed rail men"
But you can say that you have no more
Is it beyond the boundaries of the child's body?
"If you see your child, you want to kiss and hug.
Take a joke about your child's body organs..."
In any ordinary family in China
This kind of thing is happening almost every day.
Its prevalence is far beyond our imagination
Already 2 or 3 years old
Being pissed by my mother in a tree pit standing by the street;
The 5-year-old boy was taken to the female bathroom by her mother;
When several adults meet, they will make fun of the baby's genitals;
Parents let children pee in public on the bus
Colleagues around C
I just spit a thing with me two days ago.
Her mother gave her a blind date.
It’s also very good for that guy’s
I took the guy home.
I want to contact C to contact me.
The result is really close to each other.
It’s a shame to talk to her mother.
When I said that I was late, I took out a photo album.
Turned to the most exciting page
Eyebrows the guy to see her - nude
Photograph of playing as a child
C gas does not hit out, his face is red
I can’t wait to find a place to sneak in.
Take a photo album over
The old mom suddenly lost interest:
"This is awkward, look at your photo when you were young~"
They still think that the child’s nude photos
Can be used as an active atmosphere joke
And last time
Rolling up with an unfamiliar relative
She put the child's ass directly in my ear and said:
"Do you want to touch it..."
Even in a highly open circle of friends
From time to time, parents will upload a small video of their baby’s bath.
Don't avoid privacy at all
The roll is really going to blow up!
You guys handed the child to the devil ...
What if I am seen by a pedophile?
And how do you determine the perverts that have ulterior motives?
Will the video be illegally transmitted?
I have to know that the police only cracked the police not long ago.
A website that sells child pornography resources together
The photo inside is very explicit
The most involved teens of the age of the child involved
The smallest months
How did they get these photos?
Most of them are parents of these children
Send to a circle of friends or QQ
Then saved by someone with ulterior motives
Finally uploaded to the website
Become a child pornography resource
According to a British and Australian police statistics, it is also confirmed:
More than half of photos and videos of pedophilia and child pornography sites
All from the photos and videos of the children’s parents
These pedophiles hiding in the dark corners
It’s also because of these easy-to-reach opportunities plus a relaxed environment.
Only once and for all easily
Stimulated their strong criminal desire
Do you have to wait for your child to be hurt?
Can parents realize this?
The volume really can’t imagine
For this general phenomenon
Foreign netizen "A Mighty Girl"
Posted on Facebook
Excerpt from CNN producer
Katia Hetter, "The child's body does not belong to me"
(I don't own my child's body)
Fragment of a text
There is a paragraph that makes the roll particularly touched.
"I am five years old, my body belongs to me. Don't force me to kiss or hug you. I am learning what is called "agree." If you have your support, my life will be safe."
"If you have your support, my life will be safe"
I only hope that this article can give those who still like to take
Parents who are kidding children
Aware of the seriousness of the problem
As Hu Ping, the first person in China’s child sex education, said:
For anyone with an independent personality, whether it is a child or an adult, when we want to make physical contact with him, we need to get his consent.
We need to let the children understand from a young age, your body is yours, and no one can touch them without your permission. Otherwise, it is possible to damage the child's physical boundaries, the child will not realize that his body is invaded, and will not say "no" to the behavior that infringes his body.
This is the child's correct understanding of the boundaries of the body.
How to establish this correct understanding for children?
Return the child's body to the child?
Next, I will talk to you about the dry goods.
I hope every parent will come and see
Can give the child a little earlier
Raise a healthy body boundary
Let those demons have no chance
Around 4 years old is the key period for helping children build their body boundaries.
The later the time, the worse the effect
Please do not do this at this stage.
The child’s body does not belong to me.
Should you let your child embrace others?
The decision is in the child's own
When the child does not reject the concept
Parents need to build a fence for their children
Like the American parenting expert Sears once said:
Love children need to be appropriate, and expressing love also has scale and measure. Only in this way, love will not become a cover for perversion.
And when others want to break this limit
Parents should also protect their children
"Wow, the little doll is so cute, can I hold it?"
"sorry, can not."
You never know the other person who handed the child over to him.
It is a man who is a ghost.
Have your support
I will be safe for the rest of my life.